Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
Melody Beattie quotes about
couple fun team
Sometimes compromise is important. Sometimes it's better to give in to someone else's wishes in order to have fun as a group or as a couple, or for the benefit of the team. Sometimes compromise is dangerous. We need to guard against compromising our standards to gain the approval or love of someone else. Decide when you can, and when you cannot, compromise. If it's not harmful and you are ambivalent about a decision, then compromise. If it could lead to breaking your values, compromise isn't a good idea.
needs care boundaries
Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say? You bet we do.
solitude feelings guilt
We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt.
recovery peaceful problem
Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state.
soul different lessons
... I've learned that I have many, many soul mates here, and they come to me at the right time and in the right place. They come to help me when I'm lost, and each comes with different sets of lessons for me -- usually, always, my most intense lessons -- the ones my soul came here to learn.
people care delight
Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.
children heart voice
We call it keeping up with the Joneses. They buy a boat and we buy a bigger one. They get a new TV and we get a big screen. They start a business and we start planning our articles of incorporation and the first stock release. And while we're so busy keeping up, we ignore our soul, the inner voice, that's telling us that it really wants to teach children to read. While it helps to identify with each other, we're not the same. So why compare ourselves on the basis of material things? Are you walking a path with heart in your own life, regardless of what others have?
believe perfect timing
Believing that things happen too slowly or too quickly is an illusion. Timing is perfect.
inspirational hurt believe
It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.
waiting may action
If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting.
continuation-of-life unhappy wells
If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life.
teacher horse responsibility
there are no knights on white horses, no magical grandmothers in the sky watching, waiting to rescue us. Teachers may come our way, but they will not rescue. They will teach. People who care will come, but they will not rescue. They will care. Help will come, but help is not rescuing. We are our own rescuers. Our relationships will improve dramatically when we stop rescuing others and stop expecting them to rescue us.
pain real responsibility
Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.
healing giving soul
Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don't have to push yourself to give, do, or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal.