Melody Beattie

Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
Melody Beattie quotes about
pain loving-someone profound
...the pain that comes from loving someone who's in trouble can be profound.
pain light joy
Like it or not, i was already learning that in the worst and darkest time, I would find specks of light, moments of joy. What I didn't want to learn was the other, harsher lesson - that in life's brightest moments there would also be unbearable pain. p 87
pain problem behavior
Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
pain real grief
There's a secret to get through loss, pain and grief. If we're alone we can't see who we are. When we join the club, other people become the mirror. Through them, we see ourselves and gain an understanding of what we're going through. Then slowly, real slowly, we learn to accept who we see in the mirror. Then you become the mirror for them; by being honest about who you are, you'll help them learn to love and accept themselves.
pain real responsibility
Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.
Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
inspirational thanksgiving thankful
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
happiness thank-you thanksgiving
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
letting-go knowing trying
Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.
doe heal who-you-are
Who you are is love. What love does is heal.
play worry illusion
Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.
letting-go resentment hardened
Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.
gratitude fullness-of-life being-thankful
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.
journey emotional rich
We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.