Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
code people trying waste
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.
trying
Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn't; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not.
trying doe our-lives
Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.
letting-go trying today
Today, I will let go. I will stop trying to control everything. I will stop trying to make myself be and do better, and I will let myself be.
simple despair trying
I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214
letting-go knowing trying
Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.
Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
aware death diagnosis gave people received
I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.
stop taking
Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.
relationships
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.
Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.
cannot gives god imperfect religion room struggles tells
Twelve-step promotes spirituality, not religion. It gives a practical, day-to-day spirituality that tells me what I can and cannot control. There is room to be imperfect and to be someone who struggles to find God.
likely love
I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think.