John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw
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The figure of Satan and the fires of hell have been demythologized by modern Christian biblical scholars, theologians and philosophers.
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When I walked out of the seminary, I was 31, but I was like a scared, frightened kid. I had no place to live, no license, no clothes. I was just a lost soul.
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In my family, as in all dysfunctional families, instead of parents who act as strong and nurturing role models for their children, you get these needy people who use their children. I was the kid who tried to take on the marriage.
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I try to get people thinking, to consider their pasts and presents, ultimately encouraging them and giving them the tools to embrace the work of reshaping their lives.
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The unlimited power that many modern gurus offer is false hope. Their programs calling us to unlimited power have made them rich, not us. They touch our false selves and tap our toxic shame.
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Many self-help books give you these neat, tidy formulas that are really illusions. They dupe people into thinking, 'Well if I can just do that, then everything's going to be okay.' My work differs in that I don't offer quick solutions and simple explanations.
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I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their 'shadow' - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.
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The idea of evil is always subject to denial as a coping mechanism.
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As a child I was not allowed to express my feelings, so I had to go back through therapy and express the child's pain.
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In 'Reclaiming Virtue,' I argue that we have had an element missing in moral education. That element is 'affect.' Affect is simply the technical word for feeling or emotion.
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In a sense, all of my books have been about a 'poisonous pedagogy,' which engenders a culture of obedience, this underlying theme of patriarchal systems.
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I think it was a very worthwhile meeting. I feel we learned a lot and I feel we had the opportunity to express our opinions.
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Healthy shame is an emotion that teaches us about our limits. Like all emotions, shame moves us to get our basic needs met.
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Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature.