John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw
heal feels
You can't heal what you can't feel.
children self discipline
Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.
growing-up self-esteem mean
Growing up means leaving home and becoming a self supporting adult. I think this the hardest task any human being hast to face.
hurt people numb
I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they cant feel anymore.
attitude believe feelings
Our beliefs create the kind of world we believe in. We project our feelings, thoughts and attitudes onto the world. I can create a different world by changing my belief about the world. Our inner state creates the outer and not vice versa.
powerful feelings way
Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive.
evil broken shadow
I define a good person as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their shadow - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.
dark order evil
Evil is a source of moral intelligence in the sense that we need to learn from our shadow, from our dark side, in order to be good.
years arrogant-person arrogance
Arrogance is a way for a person to cover up shame. After years of arrogance, the arrogant person is so out of touch, she truly doesn't know who she is. This is one of the greatest tragedies of shame cover-ups: not only does the person hide from others, she also hides from herself.
children believe past
I believe that this neglected, wounded, inner child of the past is the major source of human misery.
emotional knowing way
Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were.
mets aggressive fearful
I have never met an aggressive person who wasn’t a fearful person.
creativity frustrated way
The more we know about how we lost our spontaneous wonder and creativity, the more we can find ways to get them back.
artist mark here-and-now
It is a mark of soulfulness to be present in the here and now. When we are present, we are not fabricating inner movies. We are seeing what is before us.