John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw
children giving fooled
Children aren't fooled. They know we give time to the things we love.
children risk world
Children are curious and are risk takers. They have lots of courage. They venture out into a world that is immense and dangerous. A child initially trusts life and the processes of life.
children self discipline
Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.
children believe past
I believe that this neglected, wounded, inner child of the past is the major source of human misery.
relationship children reality
Children are natural Zen masters; their world is brand new in each and every moment.
frightened walked
When I walked out of the seminary, I was 31, but I was like a scared, frightened kid. I had no place to live, no license, no clothes. I was just a lost soul.
figure fires modern satan
The figure of Satan and the fires of hell have been demythologized by modern Christian biblical scholars, theologians and philosophers.
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In my family, as in all dysfunctional families, instead of parents who act as strong and nurturing role models for their children, you get these needy people who use their children. I was the kid who tried to take on the marriage.
consider embrace people tools ultimately work
I try to get people thinking, to consider their pasts and presents, ultimately encouraging them and giving them the tools to embrace the work of reshaping their lives.
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The unlimited power that many modern gurus offer is false hope. Their programs calling us to unlimited power have made them rich, not us. They touch our false selves and tap our toxic shame.
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Many self-help books give you these neat, tidy formulas that are really illusions. They dupe people into thinking, 'Well if I can just do that, then everything's going to be okay.' My work differs in that I don't offer quick solutions and simple explanations.
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I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their 'shadow' - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.
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The idea of evil is always subject to denial as a coping mechanism.
allowed express therapy
As a child I was not allowed to express my feelings, so I had to go back through therapy and express the child's pain.