Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud, PhD is an American Christian self help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionPsychologist
CountryUnited States of America
trying christ our-lives
The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!
hurt responsibility loss
When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.
two leader combination
In the end, as a leader, you are always going to get a combination of two things: what you create and what you allow.
moving alive able
Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings.
responsibility two people
When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You don't have to respond, but I'd like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.
giving people feel-good
If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.
heart care humans
The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.
tests doe love-respect
A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.
brain able fuel
When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.
writing long stories
Whatever's happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don't treat it like it's the whole story. Keep writing the story.
moving people leaving
Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.
inspirational pain parenting
We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.
trying fool doe
The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.
issues persons hard
Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.