Gary Chapman

Gary Chapman
Gary Demonte Chapmanis the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 10 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. Dr. Chapman travels the world presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. He lives in North Carolina with his wife, Karolyn...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionReligious Author
Date of Birth10 January 1938
CountryUnited States of America
intimate-relationships wish desire
If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.
people giving long
Togetherness has to do with focused attention. It is giving someone your undivided attention. As humans, we have a fundamental desire to connect with others. We may be in the presence of people all day long, but we do not always feel connected.
helping-others impact use
Each person has the potential of making a positive impact on the world. It all depends on what you do with what you have. Success is not to be measured by the amount of money you possess or the position you attain but rather in how you use both. Position and money can be squandered or abused, but they can also be used to help others.
children disappointment parent
Lack of love from parents often motivates their children to go searching for love in other relationships. This search is often misguided and leads to further disappointment.
real love-is emotional
Real love" - "This kind of love is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth.
forgiveness love-is power-of-forgiveness
Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.
love marriage wrong-person
Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human.
couple successful impact
The decision to get married will impact one's life more deeply than almost any decision in life. Yet people continue to rush into marriage with little or no preparation for making a marriage successful. In fact, many couples give far more attention to making plans for the wedding than making plans for marriage. The wedding festivities last only a few hours, while the marriage, we hope, will last for a lifetime
running children long
Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.
past score past-failures
Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. (1 Cor 13:5)
divorce intimate-relationships skills
People do not get married planning to divorce. Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as teammates in an intimate relationship.
appreciation emotional personality
What is emotional intimacy? It is that depp sense of being connected to one another. It is feeling loved, respected and appreciated, while at the same time seeking to reciprocate. To feel loved is to have the sense that the other person genuinely cares about your well-being. Respect has to do with feeling that your potential spouse has positive regard for your personhood, intellect, abilities and personality. Appreciation is that inner sense that your partner values your contribution to the relationship.
running courses
True love cannot begin until the "in love" experience has run it's course.
commitment expression choices
Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.