Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman
Gary Demonte Chapmanis the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 10 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages. Dr. Chapman travels the world presenting seminars on marriage, family, and relationships, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. He lives in North Carolina with his wife, Karolyn...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionReligious Author
Date of Birth10 January 1938
CountryUnited States of America
before-marriage indication
What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.
average language-of-love ideas
Recent research has indicated that the average individual listens for only seventeen seconds before interrupting and interjecting his own ideas.
real acceptance thinking
I think the tingles are important. They are real, and I am in favor of their survival. But they are not the basis for a satisfactory marriage. I am not suggesting that on should marry without the tingles. Those warm, excited feelings, the chill bumps, that sense of acceptance, the excitement of the touch that make up the tingles serve as the cherry on top of the sundae. But you cannot have a sundae with only the cherry.
love-is trying reaching
Love is reaching out to try to get to the other person.
marriage couple affirming
Many couples have never learned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.
love-is giving demand
Love is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
giving demand flow
Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
thinking people want
I think people desperately want to feel love.
isolation humans human-psyche
Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.
love-is want one-you-love
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.
love-you expression decision
You cannot force someone to accept an expression of love. You can only offer it. If it is not accepted, you must respect the other person's decision.
feels
All of us blossom when we feel loved and wither when we do not feel loved.
encouragement believe giving
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?" We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise.
two matter way
Ask yourself: Does the action I am considering have any potential for dealing with the wrong and helping the relationship? And is it best for the person at whom I am angry? The two most constructive options are either to confront the person in a helpful way, or to consciously decide to overlook the matter.