Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillanis an American author, television writer and relationship expert. She's known for the 2011 viral blog post "Why You're Not Married," which for two years was the most-viewed article on Huffington Post, and is fourth most read post of all time. She also wrote a book based on the piece, "Why You're Not Married...Yet". Her screenwriting credits include Mad Men, Necessary Roughness, Chase, Life on Mars, and The United States of Tara. She won the 2010 Writers Guild of...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionNon-Fiction Author
Date of Birth12 September 1964
CityMinneapolis, MN
CountryUnited States of America
Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love.
Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often - especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn't know how to love you very well.
I'm the straight-talking woman in your life who is going to be really honest with you, but come from a place of love. I'm not talking down to you; I do this from my heart.
I'm a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I'm interested in being real.
Somehow, married or single, we'd rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let's face it: The real thing is pretty scary.
I've been standing at water coolers for the past thirty years talking to women about their love lives, and here's what I've learned: Eventually, most women I know want to be partnered.
Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life.
Ask anyone who has been in a love relationship for a while: nothing is perfect.
All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine's Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn't - or hasn't yet - materialized.
I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.
People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.
One of the beautiful things about men is that they're very in the moment. That's why they don't want to have an argument about what happened six months ago.
Being all about me is not a good thing - I don't care what 1978 tried to say - because as long as you mostly think about yourself, you're not going to be a wonderful person. You're just not.
You can't trick The Universe - it's like Santa Claus that way.