Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillan
Tracy McMillanis an American author, television writer and relationship expert. She's known for the 2011 viral blog post "Why You're Not Married," which for two years was the most-viewed article on Huffington Post, and is fourth most read post of all time. She also wrote a book based on the piece, "Why You're Not Married...Yet". Her screenwriting credits include Mad Men, Necessary Roughness, Chase, Life on Mars, and The United States of Tara. She won the 2010 Writers Guild of...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionNon-Fiction Author
Date of Birth12 September 1964
CityMinneapolis, MN
CountryUnited States of America
Somehow, married or single, we'd rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let's face it: The real thing is pretty scary.
I've been standing at water coolers for the past thirty years talking to women about their love lives, and here's what I've learned: Eventually, most women I know want to be partnered.
Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life.
Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love.
Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often - especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn't know how to love you very well.
I'm the straight-talking woman in your life who is going to be really honest with you, but come from a place of love. I'm not talking down to you; I do this from my heart.
I'm a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I'm interested in being real.
Ask anyone who has been in a love relationship for a while: nothing is perfect.
All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine's Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn't - or hasn't yet - materialized.
Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.
Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships - someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.
We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.
If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.
For every year past the age of 27, you need to take another step toward commitment somewhere in your life. Instead of freelancing, you get a staff job. Instead of renting, you buy. Fine, instead of couch-surfing, you rent.