Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionWriter
CountryUnited States of America
Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
aware death diagnosis gave people received
I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.
stop taking
Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.
code people trying waste
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.
relationships
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.
Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.
cannot gives god imperfect religion room struggles tells
Twelve-step promotes spirituality, not religion. It gives a practical, day-to-day spirituality that tells me what I can and cannot control. There is room to be imperfect and to be someone who struggles to find God.
likely love
I used to be afraid of pain, didn't take a lot of risks, especially in love. I'm not as afraid anymore. I'm more spontaneous, more likely to say what I think.
Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give.
trust
We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.
trying
Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn't; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not.
focused gentle life
What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it's our fault, that we're to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.
build martial move time
In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there.