Helen Fisher
Helen Fisher
Helen E. Fisher is an American anthropologist, human behavior researcher, and self-help author. She is a biological anthropologist, is a Senior Research Fellow, at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, and a Member of the Center For Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University. Prior to Rutgers University, she was a research associate at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionScientist
Date of Birth31 May 1945
CountryUnited States of America
Women have never been as interesting as they are now. Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.
People have often asked me whether what I know about love has spoiled it for me. And I just simply say, 'Hardly.' You can know every single ingredient in a piece of chocolate cake, and then when you sit down and eat that cake, you can still feel that joy.
The main characteristics of romantic love are craving: an intense craving to be with a particular person, not just sexually, but emotionally.
A world without love is a deadly place.
Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.
Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being.
As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.
You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.
Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.
Games are the way we keep romance alive. They're based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.
Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.
From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.
Barriers tend to intensify romance. It's called the 'Romeo and Juliet effect.' I call it 'frustration attraction.'
I think romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, thereby conserving mating time and energy.