Deborah Tannen
Deborah Tannen
Deborah Frances Tannenis an American academic and professor of linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and was a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences following a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, NJ...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionSociologist
Date of Birth7 June 1945
CountryUnited States of America
mind doe smashing
In dialogue, there is opposition, yes, but no head-on collision. Smashing heads does not open minds.
want ifs
Some days you just want to get dressed and go about your business. But if you're a woman, you can't, because there is no unmarked woman.
unique justice groups
We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.
men doors connections
The chivalrous man who holds a door open or signals a woman to go ahead of him when he's driving is negotiating both status and connection.
mother daughter complicated
It can be the best of relationships and the worst of relationships - often at the same time. The bond between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest, but it's also among the most complicated.
way connections language
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.
mean cooperation conflict
Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict.
doe recognition conversation
All conversation, in addition to whatever else it does, displays, and asks for recognition of, our competence.
play different events
When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a different play, when they say things that we could not imagine saying in the same circumstances, the ground on which we stand seems to tremble and our footing is suddenly unsure.
girl made
Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.
men public-speaking feels
More men feel comfortable doing "public speaking," while more women feel comfortable doing "private" speaking.
men understanding want
Many men honestly do not know what women want, and women honestly do not know why men find what they want so hard to comprehend and deliver.
mother father men
Like most men, my father is interested in action. And this is why he disappoints my mother when she tells him she doesn't feel well and he offers to take her to the doctor. He is focused on what he can do, whereas she wants sympathy.
looks language realizing
We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has