Deborah Tannen
Deborah Tannen
Deborah Frances Tannenis an American academic and professor of linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and was a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences following a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, NJ...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionSociologist
Date of Birth7 June 1945
CountryUnited States of America
men issues independence
The desire for freedom and independence becomes more of an issue for many men in relationships, whereas interdependence and connection become more of an issue for many women.
love-is promise wish
The allure of love is to have someone who knows you so well that you don't have to explain yourself. It is the promise of someone who cares enough about you to protect you against the world of strangers who do not wish you well.
mean ideas people
To say that a person feels listened to means a lot more than just their ideas get heard. It's a sign of respect. It makes people feel valued.
underestimate overestimate
Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's
mind doe smashing
In dialogue, there is opposition, yes, but no head-on collision. Smashing heads does not open minds.
want ifs
Some days you just want to get dressed and go about your business. But if you're a woman, you can't, because there is no unmarked woman.
unique justice groups
We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.
men doors connections
The chivalrous man who holds a door open or signals a woman to go ahead of him when he's driving is negotiating both status and connection.
mother daughter complicated
It can be the best of relationships and the worst of relationships - often at the same time. The bond between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest, but it's also among the most complicated.
way connections language
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport: a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships.
mean cooperation conflict
Cooperation isn't the absence of conflict but a means of managing conflict.
doe recognition conversation
All conversation, in addition to whatever else it does, displays, and asks for recognition of, our competence.
play different events
When those closest to us respond to events differently than we do, when they seem to see the same scene as part of a different play, when they say things that we could not imagine saying in the same circumstances, the ground on which we stand seems to tremble and our footing is suddenly unsure.
girl made
Relationships are made of talk - and talk is for girls and women.