Debora Spar
Debora Spar
Debora L. Spar is the President of Barnard College, a liberal arts college for women affiliated with Columbia University. As President of Barnard, she is also an academic dean within the university. Spar was appointed Barnard's 7th president in July 2008 and replaced Judith Shapiro, Barnard's 6th president, after a teaching career at Harvard Business School where she was Professor of Business Administration and Senior Associate Dean for Faculty Research and Development...
kids men perfect
Women are racing all the time to try to have a perfect house and perfect kids and be a perfect cook. Men, somehow, for whatever reason, seem to be better able to pick and choose, to focus on things they like and that are important to them, and let the other things go.
life-and-love perfection matter
Strive not for perfection..but for lives and loves that matter.
fun simple men
It's oppressive. ... It's food, it's clothing, it's all the magazines that come under the heading of things looking simple. Men's magazines don't seem to do this. They seem to be about things that are fun, not things you have to spend lots of hours on and then fail at.
mother real fall
If you look at television shows, which of course are fictional so you don't expect them to be real, but they're constantly showing career women who are also successful mothers and also look gorgeous. And we fall into believing that these fictional lives are somehow accurate depictions of what our real lives should be about.
school kids fighting
They're coming out of high school exhausted. The pressure in high school is killing these kids. By the time they get to college, they have been fighting for three or four years to get the perfect SAT scores and get into A.P. classes.
inspiring children credit
Don't take too much credit for your children - or too much blame!
life-and-love lying responsibility
Feminism wasn’t supposed to make us miserable. It was supposed to make us free; to give women the power to shape their fortunes and work for a more just world. Today, women have choices that their grandmothers could not have imagined. The challenge lies in recognizing that having choices carries the responsibility to make them wisely, striving not for perfection or the ephemeral all, but for lives and loves that matter.
mother stars thinking
I think what women are doing to themselves is that they're seeing these different images of perfection - the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect career person, the perfect movie star - and they're somehow thinking that they should be all of these things, and that's the problem.
opportunity expectations feminism
Rather than seeing the opportunities that feminism created they very easy morph into expectations.
perfection partnership myth
We must...forge partnerships with those around us, and begin to dismantle the myth of solitary perfection.
demand chaos
We've reached the point where the demand for rules is about to replace the demand for chaos.
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As a society, we need to think about what fairness means. Is the ability to reproduce a basic human right? Is it part of medical care? And does it extend to all people, regardless of their age, sexual preference, and health condition? Once we get even a rough consensus around this issue (even if it is forged at a state level) we can begin to craft policies that make sense. Where should we draw the line on what kinds of children people can create, and what kinds of technology they can employ? We've already said no to reproductive cloning.
companies hurt
The companies that are getting hurt are the ones like Motorola .
corporate highly likely profits
If corporate profits do go down, it's highly likely that we could see the U.S. tumble into a recession.