Carolyn Heilbrun
Carolyn Heilbrun
Carolyn Gold Heilbrunwas an American academic at Columbia University, the first woman to receive tenure in the English department, and a prolific feminist author of academic studies. In addition, beginning in the 1960s, she published numerous popular mystery novels with a woman protagonist, under the pen name of Amanda Cross. These have been translated into numerous languages and in total sold nearly one million copies worldwide...
marriage support together
a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.
stories way heard
One cannot make up stories; one can only retell in new ways the stories one has already heard.
moving commitment momentum
. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.
blow common trouble
Life has this in common with prizefighting: if you've received a belly blow, it's likely to be followed by a right to the jaw.
marriage husband lovers
The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.
acceptance maturity letting-things-happen
maturity ... is letting things happen.
boredom challenges sin
one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.
marriage player two
The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.
adventure age funny-travel
We in middle age require adventure.
matter essentials action
Power is the ability to take one's place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one's part matter.
sisterhood men he-man
Ironically, women who acquire power are more likely to be criticized for it than are the men who have always had it.
taken risk impossible
The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.
leadership sweet revenge
Ardent, intelligent, sweet, sensitive, cultivated, erudite. These are the adjectives of praise in an androgynous world. Those who consider them epithets of shame or folly ought not to be trusted with leadership, for they will be men hot for power and revenge, certain of right and wrong.
jobs adventure college
We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job" -- there always seems to loom the possibility of something being over, settled, sweeping clear the way for contentment. This is the delusion of a passive life. When the hope for closure is abandoned, when there is an end to fantasy, adventure for women will begin.