Alice Miller
Alice Miller
Alice Duer Millerwas an American writer whose poetry actively influenced political opinion. Her feminist verses impacted on the suffrage issue, while her verse-play The White Cliffs encouraged US entry into World War II. She also wrote novels and screenplays...
NationalitySwiss
ProfessionPoet
Date of Birth28 July 1874
CityNew York City, NY
CountrySwitzerland
real ideas facts
Clinging uncritically to traditional ideas and beliefs often serves to obscure or deny real facts of our life history.
children responsibility reality
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great- grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents' cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility.
friendship real-friends gossip
If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue.
real grief healing
Only the mourning for what one has missed at the crucial time can lead to real healing.
real past long
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time.
below dry
It was 20 below zero, but it was a dry cold. It was not too bad.
When we go back, it's a different lifestyle. What a shock.
children moving psychosis
The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality.
children actors needs
The child has a primary need to be regarded and respected as the person he really is at any given time, and as the center - the central actor - in his own activity.
mother children taken
Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks and months of life he needs to have the mother at his disposal, must be able to use her and to be mirrored by her.
strong wall children
It is precisely because a child's feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner is, the thicker the prison walls have to be, which impede or completely prevent later emotional growth.
children judging normal
Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace.
school confusion childhood
It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has always been disputed by the most respected schools of thought.
children parent capable
Parents are indeed capable of routinely torturing their children without anyone interceding.