Scott Peck
Scott Peck
Morgan Scott Peckwas an American psychiatrist and best-selling author, best known for his first book, The Road Less Traveled, published in 1978...
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Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity. . .Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom. . . . love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.....true love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love or cathexis, it is correct to say, 'Love is as love does'.
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Love is the will to extend one's self-in order to nuture-one's own or another's spiritual growth.
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I define love thus: The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.
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Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truely loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. ...Conversely, it is not only possible but necessary for a loving person to avoid acting on feelings of love.
falling-in-love love-is limits
Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.
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True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.
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Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.
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Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional.
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Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable.
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Ultimately love is everything.
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Real love is a permanently self-enlarging experience.
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I gave examples from my clinical practice of how love was not wholly a thought or feeling. I told of how that very evening there would be some man sitting at a bar in the local village, crying into his beer and sputtering to the bartender how much he loved his wife and children while at the same time he was wasting his family's money and depriving them of his attention. We recounted how this man was thinking love and feeling love--were they not real tears in his eyes?--but he was not in truth behaving with love.
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There is no act of love that is not an act of work or courage. No exceptions.
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The feeling of being valuable is a cornerstone of self-discipline because when you consider yourself valuable you will take care of yourself- including things like using your time well. In this way, self-discipline is self-caring.