Neil Strauss
Neil Strauss
Neil Darrow Strauss, also known by the pen names Style and Chris Powles, is an American author, journalist and ghostwriter, with both American and Kittitian citizenship. He is best known for his best-selling book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, in which he describes his experiences in the seduction community in an effort to become a "pick-up artist." He is a contributing editor at Rolling Stone and also writes regularly for The New York Times...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionSelf-Help Author
Date of Birth9 March 1969
CityChicago, IL
CountryUnited States of America
I had to go through this because men never ask for help. And they never take a good, hard look at themselves to figure out what's broken, what's not effective, what's not working.
When it comes to meeting and attracting women, many men are resigned and complacent. We figure some guys were born with that particular power and other guys weren't. I wasn't.
Men are not dogs. We merely think we are and, on occasion, act as if we are. But, by believing in our nobler nature, women have the amazing power to inspire us to live up to it.
Men are a hundred times worse than you can imagine. We are thinking the worst, shallowest thoughts, all the time.
A lot of women - not all of them, a lot of them - feel insecure about men being men.
The good thing is that women have such high expectations of men that it inspires us to live up to them. That's what I learned about male-female relationships.
If there was anything I'd learned, it's that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.
The first night we go out, the students will walk in and crash and burn because they don't have a clue yet. The second day is more about the students and they'll go and do openers and do OK, and the third day is kind of fun. On the third day, they actually start to have some success. People forget how petrified men are to talk to women they don't know.
See that girl over there with the pink shirt? ... I think she's, like, the hottest girl in the whole place.
Don't even think about it and just do it. If you don't, you'll be regretting it the rest of the weekend.
I was one of them. I understand what they're going through.
You may have missed your window because now she's with a guy. But go and approach her anyway. It's a two set.
I totally understand all the bad press, ... It's not about the book, but the ideas in it and the way these guys speak. But on the other hand, this is how these guys speak when they're together. So if I wrote a book that was unassailable in that direction, it wouldn't be an honest book ... if a guy was open about his sexual feelings all the time, he would become a total outcast.
To me, I think it's awesome to meet your heroes and find out who they are and where they came from and what made them choose to communicate in the form that connected with you.