Mark Epstein
Mark Epstein
Mark Epsteinis an American author and psychotherapist, integrating both Buddha's and Sigmund Freud's approaches to trauma, who writes about their interplay. In his most recent book, The Trauma of Everyday Life, he interprets the Buddha’s spiritual journey as grounded in Buddha's personal childhood trauma...
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Changing the standards on the books is not the same as changing the meals themselves.
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We don't want to make the wrong decision and increase (sea turtle) mortality. We're going to do a ghost crab study.
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I think the important thing, and the lesson to be learned from England, is that cautionary, very cautionary behavior and activity is mandated in this case.
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According to the court, there were no improprieties regarding honesty, expenses, gift giving; he just dismissed without merit all of those allegations. ... I think the chancellor's decision with regard to Mister Ovitz is rock solid.
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I just remember that there were a couple of times I was dating somebody for a relatively long period of time, and by the time New Year's came around and made its way to Valentine's Day, I remember thinking I was really letting myself settle for feelings I really didn't feel satisfied with. Valentine's Day is really a time where you take a look where you are.
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I must refute the implication ... that a landscape architect is a glorified gardener. A landscape architect -- unlike a landscape designer, nurseryman or gardener -- must complete a rigorous education from an accredited university program.
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If aspects of the person remain undigested-cut off, denied, projected, rejected, indulged, or otherwise unassimilated-they become the points around which the core forces of greed, hatred and delusion attach themselves.
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The central premise of this book is that the Western psychological notion of what it means to have a self is flawed.
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Meditation did not relieve me of my anxiety so much as flesh it out. It took my anxious response to the world, about which I felt a lot of confusion and shame, and let me understand it more completely. Perhaps the best way to phrase it is to say that meditation showed me that the other side of anxiety is desire. They exist in relationship to each other, not independently.
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One of the age-old truths about love is that while it offers unparalleled opportunities for union and the lifting of ego boundaries, it also washes us up on the shores of the loved one's otherness. Sooner or later, love makes us feel inescapably separate.
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To free desire from the tendency to cling, we have to be willing to stumble over ourselves.
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It is exceedingly difficult to maintain a sense of absence without turning that absence into some kind of presence
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If things do not exist as fixed, independent entities, then how can they die? Our notion of death as the sudden expiration of that which was once so real starts to unwind. If things do not exist in their own right and are flickering rather than static, then we can no longer fear their ultimate demise. We may fear their instability, or their emptiness, but the looming threat of death starts to seem absurd. Things are constantly dying, we find. Or rather, they are constantly in flux, arising and passing away with each moment of consciousness.
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The picture we present to ourselves of who we think we ought to be obscures who we really are.