Judith Martin
Judith Martin
Judith Martin, better known by the pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist, author, and etiquette authority...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionJournalist
Date of Birth13 September 1938
CountryUnited States of America
pain sick people
Visiting the sick is supposed to exhibit such great virtue that there are some people determined to do it whether the sick like it or not. ... All visitors everywhere are supposed to make plans to depart if they observe their hosts visibly wilting or in pain, but this is especially true at hospitals.
irritation law people
Etiquette enables you to resolve conflict without just trading insults. Without etiquette, the irritations in modern life are so abrasive that you see people turning to the law to regulate everyday behavior. This frightens me; it's a major inroad on our basic freedoms.
american-author born civilized fit fresh
We are all born charming, fresh and spontaneous, and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.
children sounds stage
My children did not go through a stage of being rude to their parents. I'm sorry if that sounds incredible.
changed couple last people
Over the last couple of decades, the personalization of the office changed dramatically... there's an informality people often take for the absence of rules - which it's not.
american-author civilized fit fresh society
We are born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.
I try to behave myself, and I succeed.
clothing high realize
The language of clothing is high symbolism and we all, in moments where we need to know this, realize it.
added means people simply useful wonderful
The mistake people keep making is that if they find a wonderful new tool, like email, they have to give up all others. They don't. You have simply added another very useful means to your communications repertoire.
life paying personal presents whom
Presents are symbolic. When you give them in your personal life, they should show that you are paying attention to the person to whom you're giving them.
becomes commonly deleted erase evidence people showing wiser
We're now seeing email that people thought they had deleted showing up as evidence in court. You can't erase email. As that becomes more commonly realized, people will be a little wiser about what they type.
freedom unless work
Freedom without rules doesn't work. And communities do not work unless they are regulated by etiquette.
etiquette hermit human matters reasonably social somebody worry
Etiquette is all human social behavior. If you're a hermit on a mountain, you don't have to worry about etiquette; if somebody comes up the mountain, then you've got a problem. It matters because we want to live in reasonably harmonious communities.
amount render subscribe
Etiquette does not render you defenseless. If it did, even I wouldn't subscribe to it. But rudeness in retaliation for rudeness just doubles the amount of rudeness in the world.