Judith Martin
Judith Martin
Judith Martin, better known by the pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist, author, and etiquette authority...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionJournalist
Date of Birth13 September 1938
CountryUnited States of America
added means people simply useful wonderful
The mistake people keep making is that if they find a wonderful new tool, like email, they have to give up all others. They don't. You have simply added another very useful means to your communications repertoire.
mean friendly debt
Meanwhile, the empty forms of social behavior survive inappropriately in business situations. We all know that when a business sends its customers 'friendly reminders,' it really means business.
love-you mean home
People say when you're in love, you don't need etiquette. Well, you need it then more than anything. Or they say, 'At home I can just be myself.' What they mean is they can be their worst selves. ... They always mean they will save all their anxiety about how to behave for somebody like the head waiter of a restaurant, someone they'll never see again.
mean thinking differences
People think, mistakenly, that etiquette means you have to suppress your differences. On the contray, etiquette is what enables you to deal with them; it gives you a set of rules.
honesty mean insulting
Honesty has come to mean the privilege of insulting you to your face without expecting redress.
friendship believe mean
Perhaps the greatest rudenesses of our time come not from the callousness of strangers, but from the solicitousness of intimates who believe that their frank criticisms are always welcome, and who feel free to "be themselves" with those they love, which turns out to mean being their worst selves, while saving their best behavior for strangers.
people
People read informality as, 'Do whatever you feel like,' and whatever you feel like might be disastrous.
children sounds stage
My children did not go through a stage of being rude to their parents. I'm sorry if that sounds incredible.
american-author civilized fit fresh society
We are born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.
fear obviously
Obviously I'm going to be polite, so nobody has anything to fear from me.
clothing high realize
The language of clothing is high symbolism and we all, in moments where we need to know this, realize it.
life paying personal presents whom
Presents are symbolic. When you give them in your personal life, they should show that you are paying attention to the person to whom you're giving them.
becomes commonly deleted erase evidence people showing wiser
We're now seeing email that people thought they had deleted showing up as evidence in court. You can't erase email. As that becomes more commonly realized, people will be a little wiser about what they type.
freedom unless work
Freedom without rules doesn't work. And communities do not work unless they are regulated by etiquette.