Judith Martin
Judith Martin
Judith Martin, better known by the pen name Miss Manners, is an American journalist, author, and etiquette authority...
NationalityAmerican
ProfessionJournalist
Date of Birth13 September 1938
CountryUnited States of America
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The more skillful the performance of false cheer, the more pleasing the effect is upon one's public and on that private audience to whom one owes even more.
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Do you have a kinder, more adaptable friend in the food world than soup? Who soothes you when you are ill? Who refuses to leave you when you are impoverished and stretches its resources to give a hearty sustenance and cheer? Who warms you in the winter and cools you in the summer? Yet who also is capable of doing honor to your richest table and impressing your most demanding guests? Soup does its loyal best, no matter what undignified conditions are imposed upon it. You don't catch steak hanging around when you're poor and sick, do you?
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People read informality as, 'Do whatever you feel like,' and whatever you feel like might be disastrous.
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My children did not go through a stage of being rude to their parents. I'm sorry if that sounds incredible.
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We are born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.
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Obviously I'm going to be polite, so nobody has anything to fear from me.
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The language of clothing is high symbolism and we all, in moments where we need to know this, realize it.
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The mistake people keep making is that if they find a wonderful new tool, like email, they have to give up all others. They don't. You have simply added another very useful means to your communications repertoire.
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Presents are symbolic. When you give them in your personal life, they should show that you are paying attention to the person to whom you're giving them.
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We're now seeing email that people thought they had deleted showing up as evidence in court. You can't erase email. As that becomes more commonly realized, people will be a little wiser about what they type.
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Freedom without rules doesn't work. And communities do not work unless they are regulated by etiquette.
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Etiquette is all human social behavior. If you're a hermit on a mountain, you don't have to worry about etiquette; if somebody comes up the mountain, then you've got a problem. It matters because we want to live in reasonably harmonious communities.
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Etiquette does not render you defenseless. If it did, even I wouldn't subscribe to it. But rudeness in retaliation for rudeness just doubles the amount of rudeness in the world.
The greater the controversy, the more you need manners.