John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw
self-esteem years three
The foundation for our self-image is grounded in the first three years of life. It comes from our major caretaker's mirroring.
self ego spotlight
Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight.
dog animal self
Science has so far been unable to tell us how self-aware dogs are, much less whether they have anything like our conscious thoughts. This is not surprising, since neither scientists nor philosophers can agree about what the consciousness of humans consists of, let alone that of animals.
children self discipline
Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.
growing-up self-esteem mean
Growing up means leaving home and becoming a self supporting adult. I think this the hardest task any human being hast to face.
self knowing-who-you-are opinion
Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are.
frightened walked
When I walked out of the seminary, I was 31, but I was like a scared, frightened kid. I had no place to live, no license, no clothes. I was just a lost soul.
figure fires modern satan
The figure of Satan and the fires of hell have been demythologized by modern Christian biblical scholars, theologians and philosophers.
act family instead kid marriage models needy nurturing people role strong tried
In my family, as in all dysfunctional families, instead of parents who act as strong and nurturing role models for their children, you get these needy people who use their children. I was the kid who tried to take on the marriage.
consider embrace people tools ultimately work
I try to get people thinking, to consider their pasts and presents, ultimately encouraging them and giving them the tools to embrace the work of reshaping their lives.
calling false hope modern offer power programs selves tap touch toxic unlimited
The unlimited power that many modern gurus offer is false hope. Their programs calling us to unlimited power have made them rich, not us. They touch our false selves and tap our toxic shame.
books differs formulas offer people quick solutions tidy work
Many self-help books give you these neat, tidy formulas that are really illusions. They dupe people into thinking, 'Well if I can just do that, then everything's going to be okay.' My work differs in that I don't offer quick solutions and simple explanations.
broken conscious define fully good somebody understand
I define a 'good person' as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their 'shadow' - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them.
subject
The idea of evil is always subject to denial as a coping mechanism.