Brene Brown
Brene Brown
Brené Brownis an American scholar, author, and public speaker, who is currently a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. Over the last twelve years she has been involved in research on a range of topics, including vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. She is the author of two #1 New York Times Bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfectionand Daring Greatly. She and her work have been featured on PBS, NPR, TED, and CNN...
NationalityAmerican
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Date of Birth18 November 1965
CountryUnited States of America
In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.
What makes something better is connection.
I now see how gifts like courage, compassion, and connection only work when they are exercised. Every day.
To live with courage, purpose, and connection - to be the person whom we long to be - we must again be vulnerable. We must ... show up, and let ourselves be seen.
Cool is the emotional straightjacket. It makes us less available for connection which makes us less equipped for leadership roles.
Connection, the ability to feel connected, is neurobiologically wired, that’s why we’re here!
The one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection.
The truth is, rarely can a response make something better - what makes something better is connection.
Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.
Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.... Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn't feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.
Empathy fuels connection; sympathy drives disconnection.
When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.
Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.
It's about showing up. And sometimes I don't do it. I almost always regret it, but sometimes I don't do it. Sometimes I walk into a situation where I'm intimidated and I want to be liked and I want to fit in, and I don't choose authenticity. And it's always pretty miserable.