Anthony de Mello
Anthony de Mello
Anthony "Tony" de Mellowas an Indian Jesuit priest and psychotherapist. A spiritual teacher, writer and public speaker, De Mello wrote several books on spirituality and hosted numerous spiritual retreats and conferences. He continues to be known for his unconventional approach to the priesthood and his storytelling which drew from the various mystical traditions of both East and West...
ProfessionClergyman
Date of Birth4 September 1931
Anthony de Mello quotes about
giving awareness self-awareness
All that you give to others you are giving to yourself.
selfish live-your-life demand
Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit.
hurt self opposites
No person on earth has the power to make you unhappy. There is no event on earth that has the power to disturb you or hurt you. No event, condition, situation, or person. Nobody told you this; they told you the opposite. That's why you're in the mess you're in right now. That is why you're asleep. They never told you this. But it's self-evident.
self interest self-interest
Ordinarily, everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything.
self ideas challenges
The only way someone can be of help to you is in challenging your ideas. If you're ready to listen and if you're ready to be challenged, there's one thing that you can do, but no one can help you. What is this most important thing of all? It's called self-observation.
selfish book butterfly
A writer arrived at the monastery to write a book about the Master. "People say you are a genius . Are you?" he asked. "You might say so." said the Master, none too modestly. "And what makes one a genius?" "The ability to recognize." "Recognize what?" "The butterfly in a caterpillar: the eagle in an egg; the saint in a selfish human being.
love self-love oneself
Rare indeed, is the relationship in which the other is not cultivated for what one can get for oneself.
self silence sound
Silence is not the absence of sound, but the absence of self.
change selfish love-you
I was neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change. I resented them and I agreed with them, and I wanted to change, but simply couldn't, no matter how hard I tried. Then one day someone said to me, Don't change. I love you just as you are. Those words were music to my ears: Don't change, Don't change. Don't change . . . I love you as you are. I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly I changed!
selfish butterfly eagles
The butterfly in a caterpillar: the eagle in an egg; the saint in a selfish human being.
ocean people frogs
The Master was exceedingly gracious to university dons who visited him, but he would never reply to their questions or be drawn into their theological speculations. To his disciples, who marveled at this, he said, "Can one talk about the ocean to a frog in a well or about the divine to people who are restricted by their concepts?
before-death
Is there life before death? - that is the question!
authority harm refuse
If you make me your authority, you harm yourself because you will not see things for yourself, and you harm me too because you refuse to see me as I am.
spiritual hot this-life
My experience is that it's precisely the ones who don't know what to do with this life who are all hot and bothered about what they are going to do with another life.