Anthony de Mello

Anthony de Mello
Anthony "Tony" de Mellowas an Indian Jesuit priest and psychotherapist. A spiritual teacher, writer and public speaker, De Mello wrote several books on spirituality and hosted numerous spiritual retreats and conferences. He continues to be known for his unconventional approach to the priesthood and his storytelling which drew from the various mystical traditions of both East and West...
ProfessionClergyman
Date of Birth4 September 1931
Anthony de Mello quotes about
relationship attachment conflict
All conflict comes from attachment.
attachment ease illusion
It's only when you become love - in other words, when you have dropped your illusions and attachments - that you will "know." As you identify less and less with the "me," you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything.
emotional attachment names
If you look carefully you will see that there is one thing and only one thing that causes unhappiness. The name of that thing is attachment. What is an attachment? An emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy.
attachment anxiety tragedy
the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.
love-you attachment trying
"I have no fear of losing u, for you aren't an object of my property, or anyone else's. I love you as you are, without attachment, without fears, without conditions, without egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom, as well as mine.
ocean people frogs
The Master was exceedingly gracious to university dons who visited him, but he would never reply to their questions or be drawn into their theological speculations. To his disciples, who marveled at this, he said, "Can one talk about the ocean to a frog in a well or about the divine to people who are restricted by their concepts?
before-death
Is there life before death? - that is the question!
authority harm refuse
If you make me your authority, you harm yourself because you will not see things for yourself, and you harm me too because you refuse to see me as I am.
giving awareness self-awareness
All that you give to others you are giving to yourself.
spiritual hot this-life
My experience is that it's precisely the ones who don't know what to do with this life who are all hot and bothered about what they are going to do with another life.
song ocean two
The sun and its light, the ocean and the wave, the singer and his song — not one. Not two.
selfish live-your-life demand
Live your life as you see fit. That's not selfish. Selfish is to demand that others live their lives as you see fit.
understanding way
The only way to change is by changing your understanding.
mistake attempting biggest-mistake
Those who make no mistakes are making the biggest mistakes of all - they are attempting nothing new.